I ain’t a judge! Of whatever that I do judge though, I’m pretty bad at it and so, I’ll just limit today’s daily prompt to just myself. The prompt takes me to a question that I’ve asked myself a countless times before – why can’t I be friends with any human being at all?
I see a million others so cool at befriending others. They are like butter over a hot pan, all over you before you know it! They take control of your brain, have your attention at full throttle – you’re spellbound! They are sweet talkers, there’s nothing foul about their language, and there’s always an amazing contagious electric energy in their eyes and expressions. They just can’t lay low! They have jokes at their beck and call all the time. They look so colorful, they blind you with their shine. They never let that unknown fad of a smile on your face to ever fade. They’ll jump off their bums at the slightest hint of a joke. Sarcasm holds no meaning for these losers for they don’t have enough brains to understand it. Lets call them exhibit A!
Then there are million others who are sympathizing with you before you even tell them what you’re so upset about. They are your ray of light in darkness. They appear out of nowhere, lend you a shoulder or a coffee when you need it the most. These have a halo on their head or multiple ones depending on how deep your feet are stuck. They are that one branch hanging right at the reach of your outstretched hands when you are sinking in a quicksand. They have solutions at their beck and call – some realizable and some not, but you’re trapped. Trapped under the weight of their soft tone, that feather light touch on your shoulders that makes you theirs to own. They are the handkerchiefs to your tears. Lets call them exhibit B!
Now how do you relate the 2 exhibits A and B? By listing what they have in common –
1. They are forever willing to extend a hand.
2. They aren’t shy to utter those words when they matter.
3. They lend you a twinkle in your eyes, even when it’s only time limited.
4. Most of them are good-natured.
5. They talk good on your face.
Lets now talk about exhibit C –
They are unknown. They don’t talk. They simply observe till they think it’s time for them to jump on the throttle. Now what’s wrong with this behavior is – by the time, they take the reigns of the situation in their hands, it’s already handed over to someone else. They notice the failure and when this happens a couple more times and they realize that life’s a bitch, they turn into exhibit D – the passive ones. They give a rat’s ass to what or who you are. Their purpose of existence on the crude soil of this planet simplifies to pleasuring themselves. They are the loners. They can have all the fun in a party in which they are the only guest.
Yes, I’m exhibit D where D stands for – Dreary, Dysfunctional, Dodgy, Desolate, Defiant, Disdainful, Discreet, Distraught, and Dynamic.
For me, the very existence of people on this planet is uncalled for. They don’t deserve their places beside me. And if they do, then please do whatever you want to, at the other side of this planet, so there are 50% lesser chances of me ever meeting you. Yes, I’m exhibit D for I am not as buttery as exhibit A, balming as exhibit B, and I’m way past exhibit C.
No wonder I have no friends other than the ones I’ve cared to mention before in some posts.
Lets see how others befriend others –
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Fabulous piece of writing, Samir; it has got real energy and fire in it. Wow! I am impressed.
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Thank you so much Alienora! You just made my day whole! 😀
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Well! I for one would newer see you to be exhibit D, you’re too much fun for that category brother! lol
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Remember, we are at opposite ends of the earth? 😀
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Soooo I need a worms armageddon cannon to shoot you in case I’m wrong? XD
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Remember the laser gun aboard some stupid Destroyer Kidd in Transformers: Revenge of the fallen? Something like that!
But just kidding… you may just be right! 😉
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ah hah! see, now we talkin! lemme go look in my box of nuclear weapon toys! I know I have it somewhere. hmm!
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hahahahaha lol!
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D- they are the loner ? so yo really are like this …
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I think so! 🙂
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i was wondering how gol gappas are enjoyed alone :O ?
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You’ll wonder too at the number of lone parties i’ve thrown to myself! 😀
Gol Gappa’s are a part of those parties!
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hehehe 😛 actually you are kanjos and nothing else.. you dont want to share
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hahahahaha lol you got me! 😀
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see 😛 … that also proves that Indi and Paki thinks alot similar 😛
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Indians and Pakistanis are perfect examples of brothers and sisters who are angry for they care about each other too much! 😀
And thank you for your kind words in appreciation Afsheen! May you remain as blessed as ever too! 😀
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Thank you S.mishra,
Hope someday we can go across the border easily just to eat gol gappas…
😛 take care
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Amen to that! 😀
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sum ameen..
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The best part about this discussion is you cared to remember the gol gappas… I’m really really flattered Afsheen! Thank you! 😀
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🙂 .. hehe.. ok..
Anyway the post is very nicely written and i like your analysis on different types of people which proves you have a very good observation skills and you keep an eye on society.Also i am very impressed by your writing style.
All the best for future too.
May Allah bless you ameen.
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Is it just me or someone else can feel this philosophical mind. Your description of A B C and D is making me jittery, i am not sure of my group.
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That’s ok Ranu… don’t judge yourself… just be what you are which is awesome! 😀
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This really made me laugh, because your analysis and categorizations of people are so true! I’m not sure which one I fit into. I’m like a loose hair, continually popping up in one place or another. And I guess if 90% or more of the population annoys you, then thats not very promising for my making friends. I want to blame you if thats the case, yet your writing makes me feel inadequate.
Where can I send my bills for psychotherapy sessions? 😉
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Humor was a huge part of it! And thanks a million tons for noticing it! Don’t worry about any therapy… you are absolutely perfect the way you are! 😀
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Amazing categorizations 😀 I am left wondering where do I fit!
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Just be yourself… Thank you so much for your appreciation Palak! 😀
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The fried, buttery thing in the picture looks delicious! What is it? Though my stomach won’t tolerate buttery or fried–I’d at least have to take a miniscule taste of a corner! 🙂
I am a combination personality when it comes to how I interact with people. I have a few friends that I’m very close with. I consider my best friend to be like a sister. I’m very outgoing and love to laugh and joke. I also care very deeply about people and am there for my friends and family when they need me and I believe in showing respect to everyone.. There are also times that I enjoy the solitude of being alone. During those times, I plan, write, listen to music, and just sit and think about life in general.
I had some very rough times earlier in my life and thought that I didn’t need people. I turned out that the more I shunned interaction, the worse I felt. Sometimes being alone, without the positive input of others, causes us to reflect on people and life negatively because our negative experiences are all we have to draw from.
The fabulous thing about blogging is that you meet people from all over the world and experience different thoughts and viewpoints. I hope you have a pleasant day. 🙂
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Pardon me for replying so late, I’m caught with so many things, it’s hard to believe I got time to even turn my PC on! 🙂
The fried buttery thing is some HongKong style sandwich!
I completely agree to what you have said! And it’s such fun to know so much about people who come here to let themselves out in their best possible creative suits!
Thanks so much for your comment and the a great conversation! 😀
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No problem, we all have other busy lives beyond blogging. 🙂
You’re right it is fun to get to know about others from all over the world.
Have a lovely weekend! 🙂
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You too! 😀
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I have a hard time believing that.
Because if you talk anyway like you write, there is no way you would be a loner.
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Here’s what my wife said just this morning when I was narrating her my last night – “You know you should just write and never talk! Tum meri taareef sirf likhte time hi karte ho!”. You can now probably relate to how I look so friendly while writing… The words I write never turn into what I say and the same is vice versa! 😀
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Every post by you is worth reading man.
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Thank You so much for this amazing appreciation Akriti! I really love your name though… ! 😀
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😀
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